Why we're reclaiming romance

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It’s that time of year again!

As soon as the Christmas decorations come down, the hearts come out. Heart shaped chocolates, candles, cakes, balloons, you name it you can probably find one that’s heart shaped or has hearts on it. M&S even has a section on it’s website called Hearts and Spencer!

Here comes Valentines Day.

Now if you are in a fabulous relationship with the man/woman of your dreams you may wish to stop reading at this point. But if you’re not, then maybe you’d like to join me in reclaiming romance?

“...into the span of every woman’s life comes a solitary season through choice, change or circumstance.” - Saran Ban Breathnach

One of my favourite books of all time is Sarah Ban Breathnach’s Romancing the Ordinary, a year long journey rediscovering the joy of everyday life through the senses. As far as Sarah’s concerned, romance isn’t reserved for people in relationships. In fact her book is all about falling in love with life.

“You will never find a lover who will adore, desire, caress, embrace and delight you more than Life.”

Romance is about mystery, excitement and enchantment. Frankly, its far too important to be left in the hands of couples.

My favourite Valentine’s Day memory was opening the front door to find it covered in heart shaped Post-it notes. This was the work of our lovely neighbour and her two young sons. It put a smile on the face of everyone who passed that day and added such sweetness to the day.

“All women lead lives of intrigue, mystery and wonderment, including you. And yet, how often do we approach each day as it if were an exhilarating adventure instead of another chain in a life sentence without parole?”

This quote from Sarah Bran Breathnach really hit home for Holly and I, as we know we’re both guilty of approaching life like it’s a dentist’s appointment.

So this February, how about falling in love with your life just as it is now, seeing the magic in the mundane? Romancing your life is about reclaiming your independence to make your own life magical and special without any one else. If there is someone else in your life, then bring them on board. The more the merrier.

To get started, try taking a few moments at the end of the day to record moments of mundane magic from the day. Start with just one moment a day and watch it increase. As you start to pay attention to moments of mundane magic, it trains your brain to notice more.

Here are a few of our recent ones:

  • Discovering an unopened bottle of wine at the back of the cupboard.

  • Finding a chocolate mini egg in the packet you thought was empty.

  • Getting back from a dog walk just as the heavens open.

  • Jumping in puddles with your wellies on.

  • Finding a £2 coin in a coat pocket.

  • Arriving at the station to find your train has been delayed and is waiting for you.

  • Picking up your phone to call a friend just as they call you.

You see there really is magic everywhere, we just need to take time to notice it.

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